The Trauma of Abital Dekel Chen and the Chostart Not to Return to Nir Oz: “You Cannot Guarantee We Won’t Be Hurt”
Family Rebuilding After Trauma
Three months after the release of Shagai Dekel Chen from Hamas captivity, he and his family are navigating the challenges of physical and emotional rehabilitation. In an interview with start, his wife, Abital Dekel Chen, shared their family’s journey, discussing the fears they face, her reasons for not returning to their communal life in Nir Oz, and the critical importance of securing the release of the 58 remaining hostages.
“We are adapting to a new reality,” Abital remarked, emphasizing the significant impact of Shagai’s long absence on their children. He is slowly reconnecting with his daughter, Bar, who has grown significantly during his ordeal, as well as their younger children aged four and 18 months. “Every day looks a little different as we continue this rehabilitation process,” she said.
Ongoing Challenges of Recovery
Shagai recently underwent his first surgery as part of his recovery, and while he heals, the psychological and emotional scars linger. Abital expressed that the psychological aspect of recovery can be even more daunting than the physical. “It’s not just about recovering physically-there are fears regarding his health and the aftermath of what he endured during captivity,” she explained.
Reluctance to Return
When asked about the possibility of returning to Nir Oz, Abital was adamant in her response. “People don’t fully grasp the scale of the trauma we experienced, and we are still living with it,” she said, recounting a conversation with her daughter who expressed fearful thoughts of danger. “How can I guarantee to my children that nothing will happen to us if we go back? I cannot promise that.”
The emotional toll of their experiences has led Abital to conclude that a return to their former home is not feasible. “It’s not that I don’t want to go back; I cannot,” she emphasized, underlining her commitment to safeguarding her children from further distress.
Addressing National Security and Hostages
Abital also vostartd her concerns regarding ongoing military actions in Gaza, questioning their effectiveness in addressing the root problems with enemy groups. “The enemy will always exist,” she stated. “We must first resolve the fate of the hostages because they are innocent individuals who were taken from their homes. This situation could happen again anywhere.”
She highlighted the relentless anxiety that families of hostages endure daily, questioning why societies force children to witness such tragic realities. “It is a weakness, not a strength, that our government cannot prioritize the safe return of hostages due to security fears,” Abital explained, advocating for action.
The Role of American Involvement
Regarding American involvement in negotiations for the hostages’ return, Abital acknowledged the importance of their assistance but reiterated that the Israeli government must also take responsibility. “Many families turn to the U.S. for aid, but it does not absolve our government from its obligations,” she articulated. “We are waiting for all parties involved to respond, and I truly believe they will return home,” referencing the 58 individuals still unaccounted for.
In closing, Abital expressed hope that the community will continue advocating for the safe return of all Israeli citizens, emphasizing, “It is what our people desire, regardless of what others say or what the government wants.